Thursday, January 20, 2011

EARLY SPRING CLEANING! IT'S HYSTERY...


Hello dear readers: well, on to a new phase! Apparently Chemo has reduced active C enough to clean out unwanted baggage! The MRI showed additional reduction of active cancer, and no indication of interference with the bladder, so surgery is the word of the day. The surgeon who specializes in gynecological surgery for oncology patients is recommending a total hysterical sweep out, I mean hysterectomy - all intended to buy time. Hey, do I need this plumbing?? Hello!!

While surgery is always a bit daunting, I look forward to time out of chemo, and a return to somewhat normalcy after this year of chemicals. After six months of weekly drip, I'll actually miss my fabulous chemo team, especially June, my always cheery chemo nurse, Zulmira and the CNA crew who always provided comfort and snacks, and CI, the endlessly patient intake clerk who handles the endless paperwork as we stream through.

So, I'll be laid up a bit, then on the mend - and on with living each day! Stay tuned for updates - xx

Monday, January 10, 2011

MOVING SLOWLY IN 2011...



Greetings dear readers! Again, a delay in postings - have been waiting to hear about my future... I now have to go for an MRI as the CAT scan doesn't tell enough to determine my future treatment - ah the wheels of progress in medical treatment time...

Otherwise, January moves on into 2011. my latest attitude adjustment for 2011 is: not just 'hope', but possibility and opportunity. Hope without action is mere fantasy. My plans for action in 2011 include action to continue my road to health, action to clear up chaos in my personal sphere, action to add my own small part to positive social change and social justice.

These three plans have of course their own internal contradictions (what in life doesn't???) Action for health may include more inaction in terms of my physical and work life, but can
always mean action in terms of my intellectual and spiritual life. There are so many messages that tell us about negative activity in our smaller and larger communities, yet I realize how important it is to seek out news of positive change. My old friend Diane visited last week and shared her victories in Santa Fe NM - the city succeeded in raising the minimum wage within the city limits to more than $9.00 an hour - actual progress towards a living wage! While such actions may continue to send corporations overseas for the sweatshop wages that secure huge profits, this action serves as a model for collaboration between public and private spheres of influence. I am so encouraged by this success!

So we need to keep our antennae tuned for such success, and to look for arenas (arenae??) for action. (Couldn't resist this image - snails with hats...)

While my own individual contributions and progress are definitely snailish (how's that for a word for today), I am seeking the slow and steady movement forward in each moment. Like snails, we each carry our own universe on our backs; we each leave a trail in the annals of human history, no matter how small.

Stopping by my blog on this post snowy evening, I welcome your thoughts and responses! xSal

Thursday, December 23, 2010

HAPPY HOLIDAYS & HOPE



Hi all - well the holidays are upon us - I have been woefully absent for several weeks - just busy!! I am thrilled that my cancer marker number is now FOUR!!

This means that my immune system sees almost NO reason to respond - the cancer seems to be completely dormant. I won't know finally until the next CAT Scan - Jan. 3! Keep those positive vibes coming!

SO I WISH FOR ALL MY LOYAL READERS A WARM AND LOVING HOLIDAY SEASON!

You have followed my journey for 2010 - your responses and support have meant so much to me.
In the next year, I will be more active with raising support for cancer research, and exploring integrated care which has meant so much to me: combining medical solutions with support for the psyche and soul.

Each new day brings opportunities to appreciate this amazing journey called life. As we celebrate returning to the light (hurray!!) and the calendar change, I look forward for new opportunities to learn and grow, to dance, sing, love. May we work towards peace, social justice and possibility as the world turns... xx

Monday, December 6, 2010

FAMILY REFLECTIONS



Greetings dear readers! Just said goodbye after a marvelous visit from sister Susan. Our few days together reminded me of one year ago - my diagnosis received. It's hard to believe it's been a year - and that I have had 11 months of chemo! The pic on the right was taken last year - the four of us Gabb siblings gathered at Sister Carolyn's apartment for a 'family photo' op. You can see that Gabb grin (brother George taking a moment of reflection himself!)
SisSue's visit was a great chance for special sister time - and I plan to have a similar visit in Richmond with SisCee in April. BroG has come twice - my loyal VA siblings. With an adventure like the big 'C', that special shared knowledge only possible among siblings becomes so very important. You can laugh and cry with siblings in a way with no others. There are those little packages of knowledge about your family dynamic that only siblings grasp.

For the four of us, there are the shared memories of holidays, the all important rituals of cookies, decorating, and above all the Christmas Eve 'program' - complete with hand drawn program guides. We melded the Christian celebration with the family traditions: the Jesus story from the St. James Bible (with it's familiar Shakespearean English) with Clements "The Night Before Christmas" poem that has shaped the view of 'Santa Claus' for all time (St. Nicholas? Who?) The emphasis was on warm and silly family fun - through the rituals we recreated the somewhat fictional Norman Rockwellian tableau of our family dynamic (and the 50's Coca Cola ad view of Santa!). Whatever the fantasy of it all, each of us retains a memory of Christmas festivities that speaks to the best of our childhood years.


As Sue and I visited those memories, we shared new revelations about our family dynamic (Sue mentioned that she rankled a bit with our Sunday night ritual - a family waffle dinner made one at a time on our waffle maker: as the oldest, she always had to get her waffle last! And 'middle child me', I always thought the oldest got the best deal!!) The holidays, friends, for better or for... Take time for meditation during these frantic days!! xx

Monday, November 22, 2010

At Last a Post: Metaphors in Megaliths.

Wow! back on line! Have been having terrible problems with my computer, dear readers, but finally think they are solved. Also, have been writing in a journal by hand - so will share some of my musings. I have been thinking a great deal about spirituality and our ancient heritage. I have been studying such spiritual monuments as the Stone Henge in England, and the amazing dedication to spiritual ritual from our earliest human ancestors. before the discovery of metals, before written language, human beings were celebrating power greater than themselves, and creating rituals around concepts of life to death to life, using the sunrise to sunset metaphonr, and capturing the cycle through huge monuments such as the pyraminds in Mexico and South America, and the many stone circles in the British Isles, the Scandinavian countries and northern France.

(Yeah, I love lots of time on my hands! I know this is kind of heavy headed for a first post in so long, but it's really fascinating to explore!)

So on to Stonehenge. One reason this fascinates me is that apparently, my forebears came from the area of England where these huge stones stand - the Salisbury Plain. Pictures show these mighty slabs sitting in stark relief against the sky: some toppled over succeeding milenia, some missing, destroyed by ensuing generations. I've been reading a book on the history of excavation of Stonehenge - the structure was constructed over hundreds of years - between 2,500 BC and 1,600 BC! The researchers have concluded that the stones weere erected and placed to align with the rising sun, and it's movement across the Eastern Sky through the seasons. It may also be aligned with the phases of the Moon - they were non literate scientists who observed and registered what they saw as the movement of sun and moon across the sky, using this as a metaphor for life and death. These ancients celebrated equally important roles for men and women. In Avebury, another stone circle, some stones are perceived to be phallic pillars , while others are triangular, representing the female principal.

That we as humans have sought to understand and explain the relationship of our own human experience of mortality to the patterns of our solar system, our universe, is somehow awe inspiring, universal and personal. Last night was a full moon - I observed it on TV! We 'modern' humans think we understand the energy of the sun in physical terms, the reflected sunlight on the circulating moon. But still these celestial bodies provide metaphors for our own tiny sphere of existence, our own experience of mortality.

As we approach the winter solstice, that darkest day when sunlight hides from us, wrapping us in longer nights, I tend to musing about our human heritage of spirituality and search for meaning in the movement of the spheres. I am approaching a year since my diagnosis, a year of treatment- physical, psychological, spiritual. I won't be erecting megalith stone circles, but certainly seek the metaphors of meaning for this thing called our lives.

Hope a few of you are still out there!! xxSal

Friday, October 22, 2010

THE BIG 'C'

So I'll finally write about this 'comedy about cancer'. I researched the writers and found that two or three have had cancer; all have friends or relatives (2 of 5 of us they say). In talking about the 'pilot' the author and the producer say "it's time to bring cancer out of the closet". In some ways,the show is dumping a closet full of too cute gags, in other ways the show allows exploration of dark corners.



When I first viewed the early episodes, my reactions were polar - on the one hand, a recognition, a sense of relief that finally people can laugh. On the other, I felt the deep melancholy portrayed occassionally by the talented Laura Linny. As I watch her from week to week, I see her brilliance as an actress in the darker scenes - her expressions, the coming to terms with 'not enough time.'

By making her an upper middle class white lady who doesn't have to worry about co pays or other costs, the authors free her from the tragic drama of cancer for so many people. This also gives her the freedom to carry out her 'bucket list' in ways most of us cannot. Actually, among my favorite scenes so far was the couch burning - it was such a visceral reaction! I have seriously been thinking about which piece of furniture I want to burn...

As the show continues, Cathy's life gets crazier and crazier: she kicks her husband of 20 years out, takes on a sexy lover, lives more and more over the edge. I continue to watch with a kind of horror/ fascination: where are they taking this, and why? Also, her life as a teacher, ostensibly in summer school this season, is totally out of whack: the school seems to have absolutely NO oversite of what goes on in the classroom! (High school teachers - is that possible??)

The producers say they are planning for six seasons - 18 months in real time, covering one season a season (summer, fall, winter, etc.) The producer says "we are keeping up with progress in the field such as clinical trials" - but her diagnosis continues to be terminal. As is the diagnosis for us all, it's just that most of us don't have a date.

Barbara Ehrenreich, who has written eloquently and sharply about the over-cuteness of the breast cancer 'pink' tide also feels the authors err on the side of silly. I tend to agree, but have some kind of perverse enjoyment as I share both the hilarity and the shadows. Like everything tasty, it needs a grain of salt. xSal

Monday, October 4, 2010

MEMORY LANE


So the first round of this series is done - and I'm still thinking SHRINK! I have started writing at least an hour each day - friends have encouraged me to write about my crazy life, so I'm traveling down memory lane. Speaking of memory, we went to NYC for some appointments, and am going to be on a panel this weekend with two old friends who were my colleagues when I 'came out' in Atlanta, GA. Together with a group of energetic women we helped to found a 'feminist Lesbian' organization, the Atlanta Lesbian Feminist Alliance (ALFA.) Vicki is a feminist scholar and writer; Lorraine is a legal assistant with Lambda Legal in Atlanta, working on cases to further GLBTQ rights in this country.

Preparing has been quite a journey: a reminder of the 'creative' nature of memory, and how our backgrounds and experiences shape what and how we remember. Did this happen?? Did I make it up??? Those years in Atlanta - The Great Speckled Bird underground newspaper, Sojourner Truth Lesbian Print Shop, the Lesbian communes, the belief that we could speak out and change the world for the better - those years shaped my consciousness and my life.

One important memory captures my affection for a friend Jean Zorn. A woman in her forties, she had moved to Atlanta from South Georgia, and was a special education teacher. In South Georgia she was a Civil Rights advocate, and had been one of the first white She was also a wild hippie soul who joined our hippie radical community in Atlanta, and even lived in one of the communes. Jean contracted breast cancer, thought she was in remission, it recurred, and she passed from us in a year. I saw her often during her final year, and was inspired by her dedication to living those final months with creativity, passion and dignity. She lived life to the fullest, and at her final memorial, the gospel choir from her school in South Georgia sang "To every Season there is a time.." and "Oh happy day". Jean had written a letter to friends asking that we celebrate her life. You live in my thoughts, Jean!

So after this brief break am back and moving towards more chemo next week. Living with the 'Big C' (will write about that program this week!) 'Til I write again...
xx